When It’s Time to Go Back to Work

when it's time to go back to workI’m a stay-at-home mom. I don’t really know how I ended up being one, however. I went to college, got my degree, and started a career. I married a man in the military and ended up moving several times. When my daughter was born, we were a month away from moving again, so I just figured I would stay home with her. I couldn’t teach in the middle of the year.  So, I started staying home. I always just figured I would.

Fast-forward over 3 years, and here I sit. I have hobbies, sure. I help with this blog, which serves as my creative outlet. (I have to use my English degree somehow!) I recently became a consultant for a direct sales company, just so I could use my brain and talk to adults more. I was shocked when I discovered how insecure and unqualified I felt to have some kind of a job, a career, outside of my home. I was amazed at how much I hide behind my kids and how vulnerable I feel when it’s just me at the store or just me at the workplace.

Now don’t get me wrong, I think staying home with your kids is a huge blessing. I treasure each day that my husband can provide for us. However, I do plan on going back to teaching someday. Here are some ways to transition back into a job after being home with your kiddos.

Be Confident

You can make lunch, fold laundry, and send a kid to time-out at the same time, but for some reason we as moms have trouble being confident in ourselves as women. Remember who you were before kids. You are smart, beautiful, and have so much to give. Sure, we give our all to our kids, but we can also use our brains. I feel most confident when I am using my intelligence I forgot I had! Treat yourself to a new coffee cup or something fun to take to work. Enjoy your alone time.

Start Small

For me, helping with this blog and doing some work with direct sales is sufficient for me. It is empowering for me to go to my parties and talk about the products I am selling. That’s enough for now. Begin working part-time or try doing some volunteer work to start with. Don’t put pressure on yourself to go back to work full-time if you aren’t ready or if you don’t have to right now.

Remember, You are Still Mom

Your kids may be in school now or you may have a daycare provider, but you are still their mom. Trust the hands that are taking care of them, whether it is a relative or new teacher. You are still just as good as a mom as you were being with them all day, maybe even a better mom.

If going back to work doesn’t end up being what you desire, you can always try again later. For me, it makes me nervous to even think about a career right now because I know even on the bad days, my kids still need me.

Karyn Meyerhoff is a mom of two in Northeast Indiana where she works full-time as a mommy.

Tags: confidence, returning to work, working mom, working outside of the home

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