Oh, Valentine’s day. What are we really celebrating? It’s supposed to be all about love and friendship right? Nurturing our love for each other, celebrating our friends who feel like family, being thankful for the love that we have in our lives. We want the best for the ones we love the most right? So what exactly does candy have to do with any of that? Why do we want to give the people we love so much little boxes of candy hearts filled with food dye, sugar and who knows what else?
I’m a mom who tries really hard to keep junk food out of the house. I want food dye, corn syrup, sugar and whatever else is in candy far away from my daughter which makes valentines day a day that I don’t even want to send her to preschool. Surely she’ll come home with lots of little bags of candy that I’m not going to let her eat and that will end up in the trash. I feel bad throwing it away- after all someone paid for it- but to be honest I’d much rather put it in the trash than put it in our bodies.
So then the bartering with a 4 year old begins. You give me that candy and we’ll buy you some other candy that doesn’t have the ingredients that I don’t want you to have. You really want the candy you got? Ok, choose one piece that you really, really want and you can have that and then we’ll change the rest for something else.
But then I become the monster mom that won’t even let her kids have a piece of candy on valentines day. Lucky for me I don’t really care what other parents think of what I feed my kid. No, I’m not depriving her of a life without candy- I just make sure the candy she does eat is the highest quality I can find. There are plenty of organic varieties out there and just because something is organic does not make it healthy – candy is candy.
I want her to learn at a very young age that there is a huge difference when it comes to the quality of ingredients. Plain and simple. I tell her all about the junk that’s in food and then sometimes we decide we still decide to have some junk but I know that even at the age of 4 she knows there’s a difference.
My hope is that one day she’ll come home from school with cute valentines day cards from her friends instead of little bags of candy.
Jacqueline Banks is a certified Holistic Health Counselor and online fitness coach. She works with women in all stages of motherhood, from mothers struggling with conception to those trying to get their grove back after pregnancy to ensure the best health and nutrition for both mom and baby.