I became a mom in August 2012. My husband was in the Navy. We lived in Southern Georgia, and I had never been around babies. Fast-forward two months later: We move to Northern Indiana, 6 hours from any family or friends. My husband starts his new job, and I have a 2-month-old baby girl. It would be an understatement to say I needed mom support. A good friend once told me that finding other moms you can connect with was one of the most important parts of motherhood, and I have to say I agree.

Where to find mom support?

For me, the first support I found was in a local mom’s group called MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers). I was fortunate that our realtor saw I needed some friends and invited me to her church to check out the group. Not only does this organization offer encouragement, it also offers free breakfast and free childcare. You can find groups in your community who meet weekly, monthly, or even bi-monthly.

If you are a stay-at-home mom, try to connect with your husband’s coworkers and their spouses. Check out websites like mommeetmom.com or Meetup.com. Facebook has helped me find many connections for support. Local groups have pages on Facebook where you can ask questions, meet other moms, and even plan play dates with other moms in your area.

Benefits of Mom Support

I think finding other moms to connect with and support you is a vital part of motherhood. It helps to go to those who have been through this journey before. The support of other moms can also help you maintain your sanity. I know I cherish the times I have with other moms. We may just sit and talk while our kids play or go for a long stroller walk while sipping Starbucks. However, the adult conversation does me a great deal of good. Other moms can be helpful when you have questions. From nursing to potty training, most moms can be helpful and share a funny story or two to make you feel at ease.

Remember that you ultimately are the mom of your children. Don’t ever let another mom make you feel that you are inadequate or not enough for your child. Look for moms and groups that will build you up and help you along your journey. Sharing your motherhood journey with others help you through the tough times and allows you to see you are a great mom. I am lucky enough that  I have two lifelong friends whose children are a week younger than my daughter. They encourage me, laugh at my stories, and wipe away any tears I have. That my friends, is support.

Karyn Meyerhoff is a mom of one and one on the way in Northern Indiana. She loves being a mom, but she really needs the support of others.