Posts Tagged ‘gender reveal’

My Pregnancy: Week 20

Tuesday, January 5th, 2016

Week 20I’m not even going to string it out, make you wonder, or begin to anticipate. The time finally came this week! It’s a girl! By all appearances a healthy baby girl! Hubby was unable to attend this ultrasound so we considered waiting and having the doctor write the sex down so we could open an envelope together.

Instead we opted to assume it was a girl, that way “we have a 50/50 shot of knowing at the exact same time,” according to my hubby. If babe was a boy I’d know just a split second before him. Doc sent a text to hubby as she told me, and he had his phone at the ready. Ah, technology at its finest. The moment proved sweet and exciting all at once. I picture my husband teaching at the whiteboard, present but distracted with phone in hand waiting with anticipation just like me.

The big sex/gender reveal also involved texts and phone calls to grandparents, siblings, and a couple of friends.  The comments from others about their hopes for the gender reveal continue. I feel less inclined to respond to “complete family” and “I just knew it was a sweet little girl” comments.  Overall I think the comments are settling overall as the great unknown is now established.  It’s strange how hypotheticals can bring to the surface so much of what we think and feel.

As we hypothetically considered the presence of a boy or girl in our lives I found the prospect tiring. Hubby loved coming up with baby names. I found it all very overwhelming, considering twice as many names as necessary. I enjoyed considering names but at some point in the conversation I’d always say something about all names on the table until we know. I’ve observed within myself a curious contradiction of wanting to leave things open (like all the gender norms that we place on a child) in juxtaposition with my appreciation of order and the comfort in knowing what’s to come.

Before the week was up I went through all those Tupperware plaguing the corner of our bedroom and sorted what to store, what to give away. Up until this point I couldn’t wait and just couldn’t wait until week 20 came along. I notice a shift in me. The feeling of anticipation and rush are gone. Maybe I’ll see them again in a couple of months. For now I just want to enjoy my time pregnant, my time with my little girl close to my heart just she and I in the quiet moments of the day.

Annie is a mom of a two- and three-year-old who finally is enjoying the full spectrum of food again. Hurrah and huzzah!

My Pregnancy: Week 17

Wednesday, December 2nd, 2015

We were first pregnant in the spring of 2011. Just the other evening hubby and I were noticing a few things that have changed in such a short period of time. These musings are not so much an all-encompassing list of trends so much as a reminder to you, mama—the parenting world is always coming up with some new gadget, technology, or trend. Whether you buy into the newest thing or pass it by, know your awesomeness is timeless.

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Baby gear is getting cooler; it is also becoming more fantastical. There are pack ‘n plays that open with the touch of a single button. I find this entirely unnecessary, but I am impressed by the cool new swings that now swivel and move in a circular motion, among other things. The baby rocker has been all the rage lately, many touting the Rock ‘n Play to be the sleep solution for those babes particularly eager to fight his or her zzzz’s. We’ll probably keep our old-style swing that goes just one way (and turns into a vibrating-optional bouncer!), but I may or may not have spent an hour looking at the reviews and picking out which model I prefer in the new rocker.

The mini-crib and bassinet have gotten a few updates, making some models more co-sleeping friendly than just a few years ago. For example, swivel sleeper designs are getting a big push in mommy circles. As I’ve had two C-sections and will soon have another, this design is enticing but we’re opting to save our pennies (a lot of them) by using what we already have. I could justify buying into a few of these new updates but turns out timeless classics, like the old-school swing, are timeless for a reason.

My Pregnancy Week 17Gender Reveal Parties

I’m going to go out on a limb and just say I don’t quite get the practice of “gender reveals,” or more accurately, sex reveal announcements and parties. I think my observation here is how trendy having a baby has become. In random daydreams I wonder if the baby industry saw how lucrative the wedding industry was and found a way to amplify everything. Then social media magnified things even more. Don’t get me wrong, I’m excited to hear someone else’s exciting news, but I also think this intensified anticipation about baby-ness contributes to the intensity of being pregnant.

After we found out the sex of each child, we called our parents and then texted or emailed our siblings and a few friends. That is way less stressful and low-key to me than a party, a photo shoot, or being surprised in front of a lot of people.  This may mostly reflect my style. I’m more introverted and subtle when it comes to my personal life (not so much when it comes to, for example, social justice issues). Whether the doctor tells me or I cut a cake, whether it’s at 14, 20, or 40 weeks—in all of the scenarios it’s an exciting, surprising moment.

We all have different ways of communicating things, and I appreciate that others enjoy the creativity and planning involved in sex reveal announcements.  Some have waited so long to be expecting that everything is worth celebrating! Continue on! It is, though, one example of how babies have become a trendy, share-worthy business lately.


Other eco-friendly, attachment parenting, what-have-you “trends,” like cloth diapering, might also fit into this category. I remember I was the first with a Moby, Baby Bjorn still only had the original, slim-seated model, and many of the popular brands—like Boba, Beco, and Ergo—had only their most basic styles. Tula was just a city in Russia. Baby wearing and other such things are more mainstream, seen much more often (though this may not be the case everywhere).  This last trend is one I’m definitely on board with!

Annie is a mom of a two- and three-year-old who finally is enjoying the full spectrum of food again. Hurrah and huzzah!