Posts Tagged ‘family photos’

Introducing FRIDAY FAMILY SPOTLIGHT!

Friday, September 14th, 2012

Fan Photo Friday was a fun way for us to get to know each other better, although we are going to take it up a notch with¬†FRIDAY FAMILY SPOTLIGHT! ūüôā

What is it? Each Friday we will spotlight a family that shops at Mom’s Milk Boutique in a short Q and A session. Families that are featured¬†can also share a few favorite family photos.

Who can participate? Anyone who is a fan of Mom’s Milk Boutique is welcome to participate. And here’s the BEST part…each family featured will get a $10 GIFT CARD to Mom’s Milk Boutique…woohoo!

Would you like to have your family featured on our Friday Family Spotlight? If so email sarah@momsmilkboutique.com with the subject line Friday Family Spotlight Inquiry. Please include in your email one interesting fact about your family.

Get ready to meet our very first family featured on Friday Family Spotlight next week on Friday, September 21.

-Sarah ūüôā

Helping Children Say Goodbye to a Family Pet

Thursday, May 3rd, 2012

We recently had to say goodbye to our dog, Rex. As those of you who have been through this before know, it is a rather emotional experience. After doing some research we decided to have a vet come to the home so Rex could take his final breaths in a familiar place surrounded in love by his family. For us this included having our young children present. While I understand not everyone would feel comfortable or want to involve their children, it felt¬†like the right choice for us¬†(just as allowing them to be present at their younger sibling’s birth felt like a natural choice to us). Here is how we helped our children say goodbye to a beloved family pet:

Photographs– Once we realized Rex’s days were numbered, we asked a dear friend if she would take some family photos of us with Rex. These photos have become important mementos to us. We are working on framing some in a shadow box along with Rex’s collar.

Special Dinner – We felt Rex’s final meal should be something special that he would really enjoy. Therefore we bought¬†a steak for him and my oldest son hand fed it to him.

Letters – Each of us wrote a letter to Rex to read to him shortly before he passed away. I helped the kids write their letters and read them to Rex. This was a very special time of sharing for us.

Memories – The days leading up to Rex’s death, I told the kids¬†many of¬†my favorite Rex memories. Mostly I shared some of the funny, silly things that happened when Rex first became a part of our family. The kids really¬†enjoyed¬†these stories and will often¬†ask me to tell them over and over again.

Honesty – Simply being honest was probably the most important way we helped our children¬†cope with¬†the loss of a pet.¬†Prior to the vet arriving at our home, I gently explained to the kids what the process would entail¬† in terms they could understand (ie- a doctor would come to our home and give Rex a special medicine that would stop his heart). I said it was up to them if they wanted to watch or not. I told them they didn’t have to decide right away and could change their minds at any time if they wanted to look away or leave the room. I also told them that mommy and daddy would probably cry and it was okay if they needed to cry. When the kids asked questions about the euthanasia process we answered in a very direct and honest way. For example we did not say that Rex was going to sleep. We were cautioned against using the word “sleep” because this can be confusing to children. Sometimes children will then become fearful about going to sleep themselves or about a parent/loved one going to sleep. Instead we explained in developmentally appropriate terms what happened to Rex’s body when the vet gave him the medicine. We encouraged very open communication by welcoming questions and accepting emotions.

The hidden benefit of making an extra effort to involve the kids in the process, was that it also granted¬†me some additional closure in saying goodbye. Being mindful of the children’s needs and emotions helped me be more in-tune with my own emotions during the process. While saying goodbye to a pet is never easy, I felt as though Rex’s life¬†was well honored in the process.¬†And I hope that because of this experience my children now have a deeper understanding and respect for the cycle of life.

-Sarah

*Photos courtesy of Jazmin.V Photography.