Pregnancy Week 40: What I Wish I Would Have Known Before Becoming a Mom

It’s week 40! My due date has approached, and here I am ready for baby boy’s arrival. Hopefully, my next blog will be a birth story, not week 41. However, I thought I would end these blog posts with what I wish I would have known before I earned the title of mom. It’s not a title I take lightly. To me, it’s the highest calling.

Nursing a Baby is a 24/7 job: Of course I wanted to breastfeed my daughter. I read the books, went to the classes, and had an aunt who worked as a lactation nurse ready to be on-call.

Enter my newborn daughter. She was tiny, and the first baby I had really ever held for an extended period of time. We had trouble latching on, two weeks on a nipple shield, and had to go back for help. No one told me nursing was going to be uncomfortable for a bit. No one told me that I would be a frequent customer of my town’s local Starbucks, and I would try to replace my tired eyes and lack of sleep for a white chocolate mocha. Let me say that after all of the ups and downs we had with nursing, it was a fabulous journey. Thirteen months of bonding. Yes, I was the only one who could feed my baby and put her to bed. But what a privilege! Those wee hours of the night felt like our time. She needed mommy. You are made to take care of your baby, momma. Trust your body and your instincts. Don’t worry about the bumps along the way.

It’s Okay to Ask for Help: You need other moms. You need other people to go through this crazy journey with. Don’t be ashamed if you need help. Maybe your baby won’t quit crying? Maybe you need help trying to figure out how to get your little one to sleep at night? Maybe you need a babysitter so you can go to Target for an hour before you absolutely lose your sanity on a Monday? Whatever you need, it’s okay to ask for help. Where we live, we don’t have family. We have a small group of friends, and luckily, these people are like family to me. We have a great church with a huge nursery where my daughter can play. I have learned that it’s okay to ask for help. I don’t have to have it all figured out on my own or try to do it all alone. My husband is my biggest support.

Don’t Compare Yourself to Other Moms: Being a mom is definitely the best thing to ever happen in my life. It is also the hardest adventure I have ever set out on. It makes training for a half marathon, moving 33 hours away from my family, and teaching middle school seem like the easiest things I’ve done. There are so many happy days, but there are also many, many hard days. I am still learning. Don’t get caught comparing yourself to other moms. We are all on this journey together. Don’t compare your kids to other kids. Be yourself. Let your kids be themselves. Enjoy the ride.

Well, week 40, let’s have a baby! I can’t wait to explore new mom adventures with a little boy in tow.

Karyn Meyerhoff is a mom of one and one on-the-way. She lives, writes, and explores motherhood in Northeast Indiana. Let’s meet this little boy!

 

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One Response to “Pregnancy Week 40: What I Wish I Would Have Known Before Becoming a Mom”

  1. Katherine says:

    What I wish I had known before becoming a mom of a boy: research circumcision. Biggest regret of my life, truly.