Why Are Moms So Mean?

Bullying seems to be a hot topic with a lot of parents right now in schools; affecting our little ones left and right. But when you look closely you’ll see that it is happening in other places besides the playground; between adults, between grown women, and especially between moms.

Why are Moms so Mean?I wonder when it became okay to insert our parenting opinions and beliefs on others. Why are we so concerned with the hows and whys of how other people parent? Maybe it is the pressure we feel as women to have it all and do it all, but when one of our own succeeds, it seems like more often than not our gut reaction is to criticize. Unfortunately, the rise of social media has made it increasingly easy to do so.

Recently I saw an article on the Today Show parenting Facebook feed. It was a car seat invention that a woman invented with Intel to help parents and caregivers remember not to leave their child in a hot car. The inventor happens to be a mother, an engineer, and a former professional cheerleader. The comments on the article were harsh and critical and coming almost entirely from other females. They bashed her past as a cheerleader, her appearance, even the way she buckled her child into the car for the fake photo shoot. There was almost nothing in the comments section that was positive. The irony of the moment was not lost on me: Here we are, tearing down the woman whose career it was to cheer on others. We live in a society where it has become so easy to go for the jugular right from the comfort of our living room with no repercussions.

Why are Moms So Mean?When our days are filled with the precarious balancing act of trying to be great wives, mothers, friends, employees, leaders, and teachers, the very last thing we need is to be criticized and judged. Our feminist counterparts from generations before would be so disappointed in how we treat one another.

We are better than snide remarks on social media. We are better than judging parenting styles we don’t understand. We, as women, are far better than petty meanness. Another woman’s success is not our failure. We need to build each other up, complement each other, and help one another succeed.

Tessa Wesnitzer is a health and wellness coach who lives in a suburb of Salt Lake City, Utah. She loves her husband, two boys, green tea, long runs, and snowy winters.

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