Cherishing Motherhood Even When It’s Hard

Potty Training Dos and Don’tsMotherhood. How would you define it?  Is it a blissful adventure for you where you teach your kids amazing life lessons and do finger paint art? Is it a crazy journey that often looks like a hot mess? To me, motherhood is my calling. Yes, I do have hobbies and I do have other things in my life that are precious to me. But, motherhood is my calling. I was made to be a mom. I can’t imagine my life without that title.

Motherhood can be amazing. It can be fun. My days are sometimes filled with laughter. As a mom of two children 2 years old and under, we have lots of giggles. Sometimes, the giggles are over things I don’t even understand. Running to the grocery store can be an exciting adventure to us. Snuggles on the couch and songs at bedtime are daily routine. Having my daughter tell me she loves me and that I’m her best friend can easily turn any frown upside down.

But what do we do when motherhood is hard? How do we still cherish it? Bad news, moms. I don’t have the answer.  I do know that it’s important to learn how to do it, however.

As the mom of an infant, you face struggles daily. Some of these you handle well, and others are just plain hard. What do you do when your labor and delivery don’t go as planned? What do you do when your baby is born with a birth defect or other life changing issue? How do you cope when your baby won’t stop crying or sleep at night? My son Levi is 7 months old, and for the past week, I have been up with him hourly in the night. This usually starts about 10 p.m., and let’s just say I need some coffee by morning. Babies need their mommies. They need your embrace, soft touch, voice, smell, you name it. They need their mommies. Cherish that.

What about with toddlers? To me, this has been a whole new ball game. The struggles of a 2 year old are real in my house daily. Just picking out clothes can lead to a tantrum. What do you do when your toddler decides to start hitting, and this includes hitting other children? This lasted with my daughter for a few weeks. I wanted to hide in my house and never go on a play date ever again. I felt like a failure as a mom.

What do you do when your child’s personality isn’t exactly easy or how you had dreamed it would be? What do you do when your toddler turns into a difficult child that you just don’t know what to do with? Once again, I don’t have the answer, moms. I would say that we have to remember how precious our children are, though. My daughter is by far one of the best things that’s ever happened to me. Tantrums aside, her smile can melt my heart. She cares about helping others and making them laugh more than any other little person I know.

Having other moms to confide in, lean on, and just share this crazy journey with help us cherish it. I’m working on it, and I know as my children grow, I will face more and more obstacles. I will hold onto these days and remember to cherish each moment. Embrace the mess. The cookie crumbs and laundry may pile up, but the memories are what is important. There are so many women who would give anything to be called mom. Cherish your children. You are mom. You are loved.

Karyn Meyerhoff is a mom of two in Northeast Indiana where she lives, plays, writes, and dreams of who her children will become.

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