How Becoming a Mom Changed Me

IMG_0211As women, many of us we dream of the day we will become a mom. We play with dolls and play dress-up as little girls. Then, it happens. Your pregnancy ends and a nurse places a tiny, helpless baby on your chest. You melt. You are now mom.

For me, this was a dream realized after a painful struggle with infertility. Luckily, the second time around was way easier. However, I did not attain this title without going through some changes. Here’s how becoming a mom has changed me.

The Way I View Myself:

Before kids, I spent time making myself beautiful. I got my hair colored regularly and spent a considerable amount of time in the morning fixing my hair, doing my make-up, and picking out my clothes. I would say I was fairly happy with myself. These days, I am lucky to get a shower. I do my make-up as my 2-year-old sits on the bathroom sink and plays. I don’t really care what I’m wearing as long as it’s clean and presentable. My view of myself is still happy. I may have more curves and stretch marks, but I am still a beautiful masterpiece. The wrinkles I have earned are just battle wounds, but I wouldn’t trade them or the laugh lines I now possess.

What Really Matters:

Before kids, I loved to eat out. I couldn’t wait for the weekend and to go eat with friends or go on a date night with my husband. I spent my paycheck on purses and clothes. These days, I still love to eat, but take-out is preferred. My husband and I spend our money on our children and investing in their future. I don’t really worry about pleasing everyone like I used to. I’d rather spend my time making memories with my family.

The View I Have of the Women in My Life:

I believe before you have children, you don’t really appreciate the women who raised you. My mom has always worked for me. She has always tried to make me happy. My grandma has always been a huge influence in my life, as well. She has tried to instill good morals and values into my life. I appreciate these two women immensely, along with my great-grandma and aunts who have always been vital in my life. I see now the sacrifices they have made for me and the patience and love they have shown me throughout the years. I only hope I can do the same for my children and that someday when my daughter is a mom, she will look back and remember how kind and loving I was for her and her brother.

So, momma, how has becoming a mom changed you? I’m convinced I’m still changing every day at 30. I may be wearing sweat pants and no make-up as  I type this, but I can tell you that I am trying to be the best, most beautiful mom I can be today for my children.

Karyn Meyerhoff is a mom of two in Northeast Indiana. She loves her kids more than anything!

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