Archive for March, 2013

Sunday Funday Giveaway: La Leche League Pull Over Sleep Bra

Sunday, March 31st, 2013

La Leche League is one of my favorite organizations that provides breastfeeding information and support to women all around the globe! I have attended my local La Leche League group’s monthly meeting for almost 4 years now! I am filled with gratitude for the positive impact LLL has had on my journey as a mother. ūüôā

Did you know that in addition to the wonderful support they provide women, LLL has created a line of nursing bras? And because this organization KNOWS the needs of nursing mamas, you can be assured their nursing bras are top notch! And now Mom’s Milk Boutique carries a variety of LLL Nursing Bras, including this Pull Over Sleep Bra.

The LLL Pull Over Sleep Bra is designed for easy access to mama’s milk with its with cross-over pull down opening. It’s perfect for night time nursing when comfort is a top priority and you are way to sleepy to mess with straps, hooks, and the like. The bra is made from a soft blend of cotton and spandex making it super¬†comfy and with a little wiggle room to grow with changes that occur in breast size during nursing. The bra comes in sizes ranging from small to¬†double extra large.

Would you like to win a FREE La Leche League Pull Over Sleep Bra? Then be sure to enter this week’s giveaway below! One winner will be selected at random on Sunday, April 7. Winner will be notified via email and is asked to reply within 48 hours of receiving email.

Good Luck All!

Sarah
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Silent Saturday: The Fun Places We Find Our Children

Saturday, March 30th, 2013

As a mom of young children, there¬†are a lot of fun (and a few not so fun) unexpected surprises that occur throughout the day. Lately¬†I have been finding¬†evidence of my children’s presence, personality, and interests in random places. ¬†For example:

Green craft sand in the hand soap

 

Pirate sword in silverware drawer

 

 

Water balloons in hair accessories basket

 

Happening upon little surprises such as these puts a smile on my face and joy in my heart! However the next two surprises weren’t quite as much fun when I initially discovered them….although I am laughing about¬†them now. ūüôā

Nail clippers in dreadlock wax

 

Dog treats in coffee grinder

 

What are some of the fun places you find your children?

Happy Saturday All!!

Sarah

Why I TEACH My Sons to Share…

Friday, March 29th, 2013

You may have seen the blog post floating around recently entitled “Why I Don’t Make My Son Share“. While we all know many bloggers intentionally write highly polarizing blog posts with attention-grabbing titles hoping that it will go viral, this particular one surfaced my newsfeed enough that I eventually read it. Then I even thought about it some as I saw various discussions/debates happening about sharing. I will admit it did get a rise out of me.¬†I thought about my own children; my interactions with them, their interactions with each other, and their interactions with peers. In doing so I identified what part of the article I was reacting to…the word “make”. No, I don’t necessarily “make” my children share, but I sure do “teach” them how to share. For example:

Making a child share looks like:

Child A is playing with a toy Child B wants. Child A is told to “Be nice! Share!”. Child A ignores the statement and continues playing with toy. Child A is told “If you don’t share _______ will happen”. Fill in the blank with some¬†sort of consequence. Sometimes this is a social one “you won’t have any friends”. Sometimes it is an action “then we are leaving”. Sometimes it is a punishment “then you will have a time-out”. Last resort the adult yanks the toy out of Child A’s hand and gives it to Child B, “I told you to SHARE!”.¬† Child A is (rightfuly so) upset. Crying. Angry. And certainly does not like the concept of sharing. Not one single bit!

Teaching a child to share looks like:

Child A is playing with a toy Child B wants. Adult first observes to see if children can work it out themselves; do not automatically assume any¬†and all sharing attempts result in conflict. Even for very young children.¬†In the instance children do work it out themselves there is a tendency for the adult to swoop in with a celebratory¬†“good job sharing!”. However this can disrupt the organic flow of interactions, so perhaps reserve it for a later time? Or maybe don’t make mention of it at all? In the instance Child A and Child B are not able to work it out, adult offers support and guidance in¬†problem-solving a solution.¬†The solution¬†will vary based on the situation. Maybe Child A decides he needs 8 more minutes and Child B is asked to wait. Maybe Child A and Child B trade¬†a toy. Maybe adult offers to play with Child B. Maybe Child A and Child B¬†can play¬†with toy together. The¬†goal is¬†RESOLUTION that¬†results in¬†both children¬†feeling¬†socially competent and satisfied.

While sharing is often deemed a social-emotional skill, research shows us the ability to share is actually embedded in cognitive development.¬†Sharing and turn-taking involves development of “Theory of Mind” (TOM). Theory of Mind is defined as “the ability to attribute mental states‚ÄĒbeliefs, intents, desires, pretending, knowledge, etc.‚ÄĒto oneself and others and to understand others have beliefs, desires, and intentions that are different from one’s own” (Wikipedia, 2013). Much like any other developmental task, Theory of Mind develops over time thus sharing and turn-taking are EMERGING skills in young children. We cannot expect a¬†two¬†year old¬†to have mastery¬†in sharing anymore than we can expect them to masterfully engage in other complex cognitive task.¬†“Theory of mind develops gradually, with intuitive social skills appearing in infancy and then reflective social cognition developing during the toddler and preschool years”. (The Development of Theory of Mind in Childhood, 2010.).

We can be respectful of this¬†natural learning curve when it comes to sharing (which I think is the heart of the original article that provoked this blog post) while ALSO¬†optimizing development by providing guidance along the way. The author states “I can understand the desire to give your children everything they want, we all have it. But it’s a good lesson for you both to learn that this isn’t always possible, and you shouldn’t step all over other people to get these things.”.¬†Mmmm, but¬†IF we are not placing a value on being mindful of others, then are we¬†inadvertently teaching them just that. That they CAN have everything they want to the exclusion of others? The article concludes with “Let’s teach them how they can get things they want through diligence, patience and hard work.”. Yes, I agree! Wholeheartedly! This is a valuable lesson for children on BOTH ends of the equation.

For example in the scenario with Child A and Child B both wanting the same toy, if we recognize (and believe) that the desires of BOTH children are of equal importance, then can BOTH Child A¬†and Child B learn the lesson they can get things they want through diligence, patience and hard work?¬†This may or may not involve sharing and turn-taking? It also may or may not¬†involve adult guidance to develop solutions that honor BOTH individual’s desires. Otherwise it seems the lesson conveyed¬†is “you better make sure you have something first so you can claim dibs on it for all eternity”.

Honoring and recognizing children’s desires includes awareness of ALL children…not just our own. Not just the child who had something first. Sitting aloofly on the sideline, completely¬†ignoring a child¬†expressing they want something your child has, essentially models a complete lack of empathy and caring for others.

Furthermore when we treat children as capable and competent, they¬†become¬†capable and competent. When we treat children with respect, they become respectful. Personally, I believe my children are capable of sharing and¬†aim to respectfully guide them in learning not just “how” to share, but what sharing truly is…the belief that others matter. ūüôā

What are your thoughts on sharing? Do you have a sharing policy in your family? How is it implemented?

-Sarah

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Tasty Tuesday: Breakfast Pumpkin Smoothie

Tuesday, March 26th, 2013

People often ask me what I eat for breakfast before going on a run. One of my¬†current favorites breakfasts has been a Pumpkin Smoothie*. It’s hearty enough to fuel a long run, but goes down quick and easy. While it’s vegan and gluten-free, it’s certainly not lacking in nutrients or flavor. Check it out!

 

Ingredients:

1 cup of almond milk

1/4 cup rolled oats

2 tablespoons chia seed gel (basically chia seeds soaked in water; awesome fuel for any activity!)

1/2 cup canned pumpkin

1/2 frozen banana (I pre-peel bananas, cut them in half, and place in small baggies to freeze. They are ready to pop in a smoothie straight from the freezer)

2 dates, pitted

1 tablepoon maple syrup

generous sprinkle of cinnamon

dash of giner and nutmeg

3 ice cubes

Directions:

Soak oats in almond milk for at least 1 hour in the refrigerator. (Quick Tip: I usually soak mine right before bed time so they are ready to right when I wake up). Add all ingredients into blender and blend on high until creamy and smooth.

YUM! I really look forward to waking up to this smoothie. It’s sooo good!!

-Sarah

*Adapted from Oh She Glows 

Monday Funday Giveaway: Nose Frida Nasal Aspirator – The Snotsucker

Monday, March 25th, 2013

Okay so I will admit I have¬†yet to actually¬†use the Nose Frida Nasal Aspirator¬†(also affectionately known as the Snotsucker). I am oddly fascinated by this device especially because I have heard such rave reviews on it. I am super happy Mom’s Milk Boutique now carries it and¬†definitely plan to add it to our home health care kit soon. Those regular bulb boogie suckers just don’t seem to be all that effective for us. Plus I don’t know about you, but as soon as my kids see that blue bulb coming towards them they turn/run away.

So how exactly does the Nose Frida Nasal Aspirator work? Check out this demonstration video:
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