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New Year, New Mom

Friday, January 8th, 2016

IMG_1410If you are like me, you make several resolutions each year as the New Year approaches. For example, last year I decided I was going to eat healthier for my family and exercise more. While I have exercised more, I still do not eat as healthy as I would like.

Here are a couple resolutions I would like to make and keep this year, not just for me but for my family. I hope you can relate. If not, feel free to laugh.

#1 Be more patient

Why is this one so hard? I want to be much more patient with my children in 2016, especially my 3 year old daughter. For some reason, I am not the soft spoken sweet mother I had dreamed I would be. Instead, I lose my cool. I get angry. I get short-tempered, and for this, I am embarrassed. Anyone else ever feel this way? I want to resolve to be more loving and gentle with my children. I want to aspire for that mom I thought I would be. The one who lovingly corrects her children, not acts like a toddler herself when things don’t go as planned. I may need more sleep and more Starbucks to achieve this goal.

#2 Cook healthier meals

As moms, we are the heartbeat of our family. We set the tone for mealtime. I stay home with my kids, so why is it so hard to cook healthy food? We regularly eat macaroni and cheese and fish sticks. (Yes, I trust the Gorton’s fisherman!) I want to try to incorporate healthier foods into our diets. I want my kids to love veggies and fruits. I want to try to make some of the cute little food recipes I see on Pinterest and scowl at sometimes. I want to offer healthy choices. I will work on a weekly menu and better food prep, so that my resolution doesn’t fail.

#3 Be more thankful

Sure, my pants aren’t as loose as I would like. Sure, my house isn’t as clean as I hope. But, I have much to be thankful for. In 2016, I am going to work on being more thankful. I am going to hang up reminders through my house. My bathroom will have quotes or scriptures hanging for me when I feel down. My kid’s artwork and smiling faces will be in my kitchen. I am going to (gasp), ask my husband to keep me in-check and correct me when I become selfish and forgetful.

So, moms, what are your mom resolutions? Whatever they are, I hope your 2016 is the best year yet with your children!

Karyn Meyerhoff is a mom of 2 in Northeast Indiana who really needs to work on keeping her resolutions this year.


Making New Year’s Resolutions

Friday, January 4th, 2013

Finding stillness...being comfortable with silence...

As a New Year is upon us I have been thinking a great deal about the tradition of making resolutions. At first I was being a bit of a scrooge about it and was decidedly not going to make any resolutions. However the more I thought about it (I have been running a lot lately so have had a lot of time to think ;) ) I figured this seemed like a natural opportunity to reflect on the past year and approach the New Year with intention. So I came up with a few basic goals/resolution/intentions for 2013…but ultimately they all felt somewhat generic. The list included things such as read more books, budget better for groceries, engage in more creative projects, be more organized with homeschooling, etc. While all of those are important to me, they are on-going efforts…things I already strive for. I wanted to approach this New Year with a unique purpose…I wanted something refreshing and novel in order to stay motivated about it. Then in a rather sudden and unexpected way the resolution came to me on January 2.

I had just completed a long race the day prior where I met people from all over the world (it was a really fantastic way to celebrate the New Year)! One of the women I met was there with her family which included 3 young boys. Of course having 3 boys of my own I felt an instant connection to her. We chatted some however she was a bit reserved in her demeanor; although not in an aloof type of way. She had a gentle kindness about her and I found myself really drawn to her. I assumed her introversion was because she was immersed in her goal of running 200 miles. We encouraged each other throughout the race and congratulated each other after the race ended.

The odd thing about an event like this one, is how intimately connected you become with the other runners. Friendships form almost instantly as you share in the experience together…even with very little verbal exchange. Such was the case with this particular woman and myself.

The day after the race I happened upon an article about her family…only to find out she had a young daughter who had died 18 months prior in an accident. Running was how she coped with the loss of her daughter…it was her therapy. My heart immediately felt heavy (and I regretted the numerous times I made comments about us both having 3 boys). As I read on it turns out she is a rather accomplished runner and has completed some grueling races (ie- Badwater) as a top 10 finisher. Yet, her presence at this race was completely humble…in fact she made no acknowledgement of her previous race experiences. Nor that she was running the race for a bigger puporse than personal satisfaction. She was raising money for a non-profit organization focused on youth. But perhaps I didn’t give her the opportunity to share these things? Maybe I directed the conversation by asking specific, close-ended questions. Or maybe I just jumped in with talking about my own running experience and goals?

In that moment I realized what I want to focus on this next year…the fact that everybody has a unique story to share. And I crave hearing those stories because there is great wisdom in them (even when they include the inevitable grief of humanity). However I must TALK LESS and LISTEN MORE in order to access this wisdom, including that of my children. So there it is…my intention for 2013 is to talk less and listen more. Simple as that.

Do you have any New Year’s Resolutions? Would love to hear yours!