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Baby’s First Play Date

Thursday, February 6th, 2014

Baby's FIrst Play DateWhen my daughter was 2 months old, we moved 6 hours away from our family and a whopping 15 hours from our previous home. I was lonely. My husband worked all day, and I was home with this little human. By the time my daughter was 5 or 6 months old, I had made a friend or two. One friend I made had a daughter only a week younger than mine. I was ecstatic for my first play date, but I was also nervous. Here are a few things I learned:

Tip #1: Be yourself!

I felt like I was going for a job interview. I remember analyzing my wardrobe and what my daughter was wearing, too. We met at Starbucks first. I sat at a table nervous as can be. After Starbucks, my new friend and I went to a local YMCA and walked on the walking trail with our little ones. It was so refreshing to meet another mom around my age with a little girl, too! If I could go back, I would not be nervous. While you will be watching your baby, you are still going to be interacting with the other momma. Be yourself. Share your interests. Don’t be afraid to ask questions and learn about a potential new friend.

Tip #2: Don’t stress if baby isn’t as excited as you are.

On my first play date, we went on a pretty long walk. I had prepared and packed my diaper bag with everything I could think of. Of course, somewhere along this joyful walk, my daughter got a little cranky. She was still napping twice a day, and it was getting close to naptime. It’s okay if your baby cries. It’s okay if you have a cranky baby. It’s okay if you have a diaper explosion, or have to nurse your baby in front of someone you just met. You can’t control baby’s emotions. Just take care of your baby and try to enjoy yourself.

Tip #3: Plan activities fun for you and baby.

The first play dates my daughter Johanna and I went on were mostly just walks with my new friend. We sometimes met at Starbucks, which was nice for us. These days, we go on play dates often. We like to go to breakfast. The babies get to “color” at the table while we chat. Play dates at a friend’s house are the easiest. Create a safe baby area where the babies can explore each other, as well as the toys available. Have coffee and cookies for the moms.

Your baby may be small, but he or she can still make friends. You can too along the way. I am so glad I went on my first play date. The friend I made that day is still a good friend and our daughters have been on play dates together now for almost 10 months.

Karyn is a mom of 1 and 1 on-the-way who loves play dates with free cookies for her and free entertainment for her daughter.