The birth plan â€¦ I took a twelve (twelve!!) week class on natural childbirth (and infant care) before the birth of my first son. Part of the class was, after educating everyone on different options (including passing around an epidural needle set to terrify everybody by the sheer size of the thing), crafting the birth plan, using a multi-page checklist as the starter point.
My birth plan was pretty laid back, and mine included no epidural, but still, the head nurse checking me in snickered and told me that I should get an epidural right then at check-in, as there was no guarantee the anesthesiologist could ever get back in time again (assuming that I would inevitably ask for one).
After all of this, guess what? Nothing really went according to plan. And even though I thought I was super laid back about my expectations (you know, the old, â€śI want a natural birth if possible, but as long as my baby is healthy itâ€™s goodâ€ť), I was massively disappointed in how my birth story played out. I ended up with an emergency c-section, the only non-natural birth from our class.
Moral of the Story: I think itâ€™s very important to be educated on the birth process and the different options out there, and to know beforehand what you personally are comfortable with. Itâ€™s also important to remember that while there are many options out there concerning birth, they will not all necessarily be an option for you. You may want an epidural, but your labor may progress so quickly itâ€™s not possible. You may want a home birth, but likewise your individual circumstances may not allow it.
If you are concerned about your birth plan, hiring a doula is a good way to make sure that your voice is heard in the delivery room and that you are supported the whole way by an educated and experienced third party.
Finally, moms and dads, we need to stop judging the birth plans of everybody else. Using scare tactics against pain relief methods, snickering at patientsâ€™ pain relief plans, and bashing each other all on choices made during pregnancy and labor/delivery over the Internet–this helps none of us. No matter the events leading up to the birth, ultimately, thatâ€™s a healthy baby is the goal, and everyone of us that has been blessed with a healthy birth should be able to celebrate that, without a cloud of guilt or disappointment over our heads.
Meaghan Howard is a stay-at-home mom to two little boys, both born healthy, despite how their birth plans turned out.Â